Wisdom Wedgies- Overcoming Fear
Wake Up, Stand Up and Snap Out of It! Are you willing to wake up from the trance you’re in and be your true authentic self? Can you step outside the box that currently keeps you thinking there can’t be any other way than your specific way? Overcoming fear isn’t easy, are you ready for this journey?
Overcoming Fear and How it All Began
This book of quips, rants and thoughts I jokingly call “Wisdom Wedgies,” was inspired by my daily wall postings on Facebook, and all the requests from friends asking that I put these zingers in book form so that they could pass on to friends “they felt” should, Snap Out of It!
You will find many of my quotes on overcoming fear to be irreverent, sarcastic in nature, and perhaps even offensive. Sometimes being our authentic selves is tough. People don’t like it and will often reject your new sense of self, but I’ve lived too much of my life being someone else and I have no desire to return to the former me. In these pages, I make fun of the contradictions we live out but say we do not. No wonder we’re so confused. We also take life way too serious. I mean come on, is anything that serious? Think about it, overcoming fear means when our time comes for our spirit to take flight are we really going to say, “Dang it, I didn’t worry enough!” or, “I should have beaten myself up more!” Or do you think we could say, “I had the time of my life living each and every moment authentically with passion and presence!”
In our western culture and attempts at overcoming fear, we are so caught up in the race of being, doing and becoming the next big thing, that we miss out on all the little things called life! I’ve learned that a few minutes of fame achieved through my performances, speeches, global radio shows and event of the month, never gave me the peace of mind or security I craved. I’ve spent my entire life, overcoming fear.
I’m also aware that even when we do Snap Out of It! the journey of self-discovery still lies before us and the Snapping Out of It! process just rises to successive and new levels and we continue overcoming fear.
My Snap Out of It! moment for overcoming fear occurred on April 13, 2007. It happened to be on Friday the 13th while attending a business conference with my fiancé, two months before our gorgeous oceanfront wedding. Yes, I was living “large and in charge” with my out-sized ego running the show. Indeed, it was running my life right into the ground! I was a full-blown alcoholic, and had been practicing my addiction for 24 years! After a night of entertaining clients and myself (I’m certain I wasn’t that entertaining) and after 13 glasses of wine, my moment of clarity came. The next day amid debris and regret, to say nothing of my horrendous hangover, I realized this was the beginning of the end of my Beautiful Addiction. My fiancé was having his own Snap Out of It! moment and decided he was done! This was my wake up call—my Snap Out of It! moment.
A Little Hard Work Toward Overcoming Fear
My journey to overcoming fear for the past four and half years hasn’t always been easy; it’s been sometimes painful, occasionally dreadful, often confusing and with a sprinkling of depression. It has also been the most enlightening, empowering and joyful time of my life. The colors are brighter and the highs are higher than any alcohol high I ever experienced! Through this relentless journey of overcoming fear I’ve come to the realization that our conditioning; thoughts, fears and environment keep us stuck or jolt us forward. It is all up to us. In my own life I’ve found if I’m willing to move my ego to the side and let my soul emerge; that is when I expand towards my highest and greatest potential, overcoming fear.
This rollercoaster of life is not for the weak. It takes getting back up time after time and it takes compassion for the self. Curiosity plays a major role in motivating us to keep going toward overcoming fear and we’re never guaranteed we won’t encounter tough days or down days; nor that we will achieve everything we desire. We’re not even guaranteed that overcoming fear will be the outcome. We are however, assured that when we begin to understand who we really are and how incredibly complex and rich our internal world is, we discover the richest opportunity of all; a life totally new and expanded far beyond comfort, joy and a fearlessness, a life of ever evolving overcoming fear. Finding this Land of Oz, can only be achieved by surrendering to the guidance of our soul, which I choose to call God.
The Still Small Voice Speaks to Overcoming Fear
The surrendering to the soul is where you actually experience God, or the still small voice. Reason, rituals and dogma are not required here, in all truthfulness; they will actually limit you and keep you in the box you are so uncomfortably comfortable in. Within the soul is your place of true transformation and this journey has no destination, not even of overcoming fear. Destinations are what keep us running towards anything other than the now. Anything other than the now causes us to continually feel inadequate, less than and not enough. In order to feel better about not feeling better we reach for something outside ourselves to medicate, sedate or control our feelings. This isn’t overcoming fear, this is called addiction.
A Little Song and Dance in Overcoming Fear
In sobriety, I’ve achieved a clear understanding of what truly nourishes me. Love. Love of myself, my family, my friends, and a connection with the Divine. I also deeply love and feel a connection to the world through my performing, entertaining, and delivering inspirational and motivational speeches. Some milestones in overcoming fear I’m quite proud of include: The release of my debut album titled I Believe; sharing the stage with many authors, entertainers, motivational speakers, luminaries and celebrities including one of my favorite’s Lisa Oz. In June of 2011 I lived out a lifelong dream, singing the National Anthem for the best team in the world (my opinion) The New York Yankees. What an incredible moment of overcoming fear that will be forever frozen in time for me and my family! I also sang for the fantastic Oklahoma City NBA Thunder and recently co-wrote my first original song Beautiful Addiction. In March 2012 my new one-woman Broadway style show depicting my personal journey will debut. Talk about overcoming fear! Each time I step past a level of fear and push through the “I can not’s and I never will’s,” I encounter another aspect of myself I never knew existed. And I continue overcoming fear.
Overcoming Fear and Stepping Off Into the Darkness of the Unknown
Recently I decided this level included jumping out of a perfectly good airplane and climbing a 14,000-foot mountain, phew! All of that overcoming fear felt wonderful and gave me great confidence. Facing my external fears always gives me a framework to look into the darkness of my personal and internal demons.
It was my intent with this book to shed whatever light I am able on overcoming fear and the eternal promise that we all are worthy for no other reason than we just are! We are all moving toward overcoming fear. For many years, I thought I had to do something or be something else to be worthy. Of course, that was before I made the decision to Wake Up, Stand Up, and Snap Out of It!
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